1184826-1316927-thumbnail.jpgOne of the top ten books I have ever read.  I finished the book within 48 hours of purchasing it.  The way that Jack O'Brien gets through to his kids, as he battles for his passion, jumps out of the pages.  The book teaches you about humanity, race, hope, and hoops.  This book has everything.

"Team sports, like life, are never simple. Beneath the concrete final score, there are games within games, small plays leading to big plays, a melding of diverse talents and personalities into a cohesive (or disparate) unit. Rarely is that tapestry revealed as fully, and as convincingly, as in Neil Swidey's THE ASSIST."
-- BOSTON GLOBE

 

 

Monday
04Feb

Winning Is A Means To An End

He was still obsessed with winning, but more and more he saw his relentless pursuit of state titles as a means to an end: an insurance policy against having to spend any more time at Oak Lawn.

Pg 4


Monday
04Feb

Remember

As they stepped back from the grave stones O'Brien told them; "Remember, no matter how tough life may get, these guys would do anything to change places with you."

Pg 5


Monday
04Feb

The Streets May Be The Enemy, But They Are Also Home

O'Brien, who loaded up his players' days with practices, summer leagues, study halls- anything to keep them off Boston's streets- was so focused on seeing the streets as the enemy that he sometimes forgot they were also his player's home.

Pg 13


Monday
04Feb

Two Coach O'Briens

Hood quickly determined that there were two Coach O'Briens.  Off the court, the man was usually soft-spoken and helpful, if always relentless.  But on the court, he was a monster, throwing balls, making the guys get on the line to run sprints for the slightest infraction or when someone tried to challenge him or correct something he said.  Hood would think to himself, Man, he hate to be wrong.

Pg 21


Monday
04Feb

An Open Secret

It's an open secret in college basketball circles just how easy it is to get rid of a recruit who doesn't work out.  With a lot of neglect and precious little playing time, the kid will likely be gone by the end of the season- quitting in a huff or bombing out academically.  Either way, that would open up his scholarship slot for a new recruit who might have a bigger upside. 

Pg 33


Monday
04Feb

No Guarantee Of Success If You Stay, But If You Leave It Is Guaranteed Failure

As supportive as O'Brien was, once the players were gone, they were gone.  Investing more time in guys who refused to commit was like drawing pictures on water.  He had no time for it. 

Being part of the Charlestown program was no guarantee that a kid would become a success.  But dropping out of the program dramatically increased the odds that he wouldn't.

Pg 50


Tuesday
05Feb

No Time For Doubters

Anyone watching closely couldn't miss the parallels between O'Brien's overwrought exits from Medford and Salem.  In both cases, O'Brien and his tactics divided a town.  He became a cult of personality.  He sacrificed just about everything else in his life, all in the name of his kids.  They, in turn, would go to battle for him.

After all, how many other adults would make themselves available at any hour, and be a rock of stability?  But in both cities, many people found something unnatural about his level of devotion.  O'Brien had no patience for doubters.  Why couldn't they see the big picture: that he was busting his tail to help these kids get ahead?  What were these critics doing on Saturday mornings and Sunday afternoons and Wednesday nights to help his kids get to college?

In his own life, he had paid the price for his lopsided devotion to basketball, when his lack of a college degree was used against him in his pursuit of the Medford job.  Who better to motivate kids to avoid making the same mistake?  Coaching was his calling; he had committed to it.

Pg 68


Tuesday
05Feb

What Happens When Parent's Go Away?

He was unprepared for what it takes to coach in the city.  Suburban coaches have to contend with meddling parents furious when their kids don't get playing time.  They wish the parents would just go away.  City coaches get to see what it's like when that wish comes true.  It's pretty lonely.

Pg 70


Tuesday
05Feb

You Correct Things After A Win

For the younger guys, who were confused by O'Brien's gloomy reaction to a 30-point blowout, Zach stepped up to translate.  "If you're not ready to accept coaching, you'll never get better at anything in life," the frenzied assistant coach told them.  "This is the time when you correct things, after a win."

Pg 76


Tuesday
05Feb

Championship Banners Don't Win Games

O'Brien refused to live in the past.  Perhaps, that, more than anything, explained his string of successes.  All those championship banners on the wall were good for intimidating opponents, but banners did not win games.

Pg 77


Tuesday
05Feb

Yell After Wins, Support After Defeats

After four years, he was still getting used to O'Brien's counterintuitive approach to locker-room speeches.  O'Brien yelled the loudest when his team had an easy lead or had just coasted to victory.  He was measured during close games.  After losses, he was supportive and never yelled. 

Pg 79


Tuesday
05Feb

I'd Rather Have An Attacker

Sometimes he tries too much.  But when I coach, I try to do too much.  I'd rather have a guy who's an attacker rather than a guy who's not sure of himself.

Pg 145


Tuesday
05Feb

Robby Gets Trophied Up

O'Brien then turned to Ricardo "Robby" Robinson, the final senior on the squad. "I want you to have this," he said, handing over the team's massive tournament trophy.  "Ricardo comes to every practice, works hard, doesn't say anything, isn't concerned about playing time."  He surveyed the seniors standing around him, and pointed to each one.  "You got MVP, you got All-Star, you got the championship trophy, you got money."  When he got to Spot, he stopped before adding, "And you got injured."  O'Brien laughed, and Spot did too, but there was hurt in his laugh.

Robby, on the other hand couldn't have been more pumped.  The kid was a study in contrasts, with the "Fear No One" and python tattoos that he'd had inked into his arms and the collection of nineteen Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle action figures that he kept in his bedroom in their original boxes, next to the stack of utility bills he paid every month. 

Robby shared an apartment in Mattapan with his older brother, a rapper hoping to make it big, but they led largely separate lives.  Robby paid his share of the bills with the government benefit check he had been splitting with his younger sister since his mother's death during his freshman year.  He had learned how to stretch the money, which he would stop receiving after high school.  After paying the gas heating bill, half the cable bill, and his car insurance, he usually had about fifty bucks left over each month for food.  Like George, Robby had just received an acceptance letter from Salem State, but he was more excited about Radford University, a Virginia school he had stumbled across while surfing the internet.

Robby walked out of the locker room, clutching his new hardware, grinning.  "I leave trophied up.  Coach says I play hard and I never complain."

Pg 146


Tuesday
05Feb

They Put Up With The Demands For The Chance To Win

Although O'Brien told people all the time that his record of getting kids to college meant more to him than all the state and city titles, he also knew that his whole program was built on winning.  For his boys, nothing succeeded like success- an experience mostly absent from their lives before O'Brien's arrival.  Many guys choose to come to Charlestown, and put up with his impossible demands on the court and in the classroom, because they knew they had a good shot of leaving with a championship ring or two.  If the wins stopped coming, O'Brien worried, so would players willing to put up with his rigorous expectations.

Pgs 159-160


Tuesday
05Feb

Hard Work Beats Natural Ability

No one ever helped a disadvantaged kid by feeling sorry for him and letting him make excuses.  Hard work beats natural ability every time.

Pg 167


Tuesday
05Feb

Kids Are No Good

"Kids are no damn good!"  Fung would tell all the wide-eyed recent college grads he hired to rejuvenate his faculty.  "They leave the school a mess.  They don't listen.  They swear."  Then he would pause for effect.  "That's why we have to work hard to make them good."

Pg 168


Tuesday
05Feb

Those Who Matter

To anyone who tires to get you off track by questioning what you're doing remember; Those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind.

Pg 207


Tuesday
05Feb

3 Types of Mothers

Over the years the coach had found out that his players' mothers- since the fathers were typically out of the picture- fell into one of three categories.

Nonfactors: Mothers so fatigued at trying to hold things together that they were content to let O'Brien run the show when it came to their sons' lives.

Blamers: Mothers who weren't interested in the grind of holding their sons accountable and instead were quick to scapegoat their teachers and coaches when things inevitably went wrong.

Partners: Mothers willing to hold their sons to high standards, accept no excuses, and have O'Brien's back if their sons tried to blame him for something they failed to do.

O'Brien could deal with the non-factors, though doing so always made him sad.  He had trouble with the blamers, and their sons seldom lasted in his program.  But he cherished his relationship with the partners, who unfortunately were all too rare.

Pg 215


Tuesday
05Feb

In Real Life There Aren't Many Jack O'Briens

Fung had just heard that Cori Boston, one of Tony's former Charlestown teammates who was also playing on scholarship at Robert Morris, was planning to leave, disillusioned by the lack of attention he felt he was receiving. 

"Why is Cori talking about transferring?" Fung wondered.  "Why did Rashid drop out of the University of Florida?  Why have others failed once they left Charlestown?

I think maybe they're looking for another Jack O'Brien.  But in real life there aren't many Jack O'Briens."

Pg 269


Tuesday
05Feb

Double Negative

He saw a direct connection between rap and those grade-school kids hanging in the street at midnight.  "It's a double negative, man.  You can't make positive music, or you'll be soft.  You gotta keep making bang-bang, but then you're influencing the youth to do the wrong thing.  They can't distinguish reality from facade."

Pg 323