There Are Things You Can Control And Things You Can't

Most of us have been operating with a faulty model of how to live in our relationships.  That's not to say our relationships are all faulty, but the model sure is.  We've been operating with a model that says in order to have healthy relationships, we need to focus on meeting other people's needs, trying to serve them and make them happy. 

This book is going to talk about why this model is so faulty, particularly in our parent-child relationships.  Here are a couple of things to consider.

First, it's a given that there are things in this world we can control and things we cannot control.  Now ask yourself this question:  How smart is it to focus your energy on something you cannot control?  Answer: Not very. 

Follow Up question:  Which category do your kids fall into?  In other words, are your children something you can control or something you cannot control?

Even tougher question:  Even if you could control your kids, should you?  Is that what parenting is all about?  And what if it's not the kids who are out of control?

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