Being Under Control Means Taking Responsibility

Learning to be "under control" means taking responsibility for your decisions before, during, and after you make them.  I am not saying you don't ever make mistakes; this isn't about trying to be flawless.  This is recognizing that no one, not even your kids, can make you feel anything, think anything, or do anything.  Period.  Your children cannot push you over the edge, press your magic buttons, or bring you to the brink.  They are simply not that powerful.

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