Challenges,
Failure 
Mindset is "an established set of attitudes held by someone," says the Oxford American Dictionary. It turns out, however, that a set of attitudes needn't be so set, according to Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford. Dweck proposes that everyone has either a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. A fixed mindset is one in which you view your talents and abilities as... well, fixed. In other words, you are who you are, your intelligence and talents are fixed, and your fate is to go through life avoiding challenge and failure. A growth mindset, on the other hand, is one in which you see yourself as fluid, a work in progress. Your fate is one of growth and opportunity. Which mindset do you possess? Dweck provides a checklist to assess yourself and shows how a particular mindset can affect all areas of your life, from business to sports and love. The good news, says Dweck, is that mindsets are not set: at any time, you can learn to use a growth mindset to achieve success and happiness. This is a serious, practical book. Dweck's overall assertion that rigid thinking benefits no one, least of all yourself, and that a change of mind is always possible, is welcome.
“This book is an essential read for parents, teachers, coaches, and others who are instrumental in determining a child’s mind-set, and in turn, his or her future success, as well as for those who would like to increase their own feelings of success and fulfillment.”
Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 05:49PM When I was a young researcher, just starting out, something happened that changed my life. I was obsessed with understanding how people cope with failures, and I decided to study it by watching how students grapple with hard problems. So I brought children one at a time to a room in their school, made them comfortable, and then gave them a series of puzzles to solve. The first ones were fairly easy, but the next ones were hard. As the students grunted, perspired, and toiled, I watched their strategies and probed what they were thinking and feeling. I expected differences among children in how they coped with difficulty, but I saw something I never expected.
Confronted with the hard puzzles, one ten-year-old boy pulled up his chair, rubbed his hands together, smacked his lips, and cried out, "I love a challenge!" Another, sweating away on these puzzles, looked up with a pleased expression and said with authority, "You know, I was hoping this would be informative!"
What's wrong with them? I wondered. I always thought you coped with failure or you didn't cope with failure. I never thought anyone loved failure. Were these alien children or were they on to something?
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Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 05:56PM I was determined to understand the kind of mindset that could turn a failure into a gift.
What did they know? They knew that human qualities, such as intellectual skills, could be cultivated through effort. And that's what they were doing- getting smarter. Not only weren't they discouraged by failure, they didn't even think they were failing. They thought they were learning.
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Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 06:00PM Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better?
Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them?
Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow?
Why Seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you.
The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it's not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.
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Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 06:08PM "If Rome wasn't built in a day, maybe it wasn't meant to be." In other words, risk and effort are two things that might reveal your inadequacies and show that you were not up to the task. In fact, it's startling to see the degree to which people with the fixed mindset do not believe in effort.
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Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 06:11PM Well, maybe the people with the growth mindset don't think they're Einstein or Beethoven, but aren't they more likely to have inflated views of their abilities and try for things they're not capable of? In fact, studies show that people are terrible at estimating their abilities. Recently, we set out to see who is more likely to do this. Sure, we found that people greatly misestimated their performance and their ability. But it was those with the fixed mindset who accounted for almost all the inaccuracy. The people with growth mindset were amazingly accurate.
When you think about it, this makes sense. If, like those with the growth mindset, you believe you can develop yourself, then you're open to accurate information about your current abilities, even if it's unflattering. What's more, if you're oriented toward learning, as they are, you need accurate information about your current abilities in order to learn effectively. However, if everything is either good news or bad news about your precious traits- as it is with fixed mindset people- distortion almost inevitably enters the picture. Some outcomes are magnified, others are explained away, and before you know it you don't know yourself at all.
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Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 06:18PM We realized that there were two meanings to ability, not one: a fixed ability that needs to be proven, and a changeable ability that can be developed through learning.
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Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 06:34PM In one world, failure is about having a setback. Getting a bad grade. Losing a tournament. Getting fired. Getting rejected. It means you're not smart or talented. In the other world, failure is about not growing. Not reaching for the things you value. It means you're not fulfilling your potential.
In one world, effort is a bad thing. It, like failure, means you're not smart or talented. If you were, you wouldn't need effort. In the other world, effort is what makes you smart or talented.
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Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 06:37PM I'll never forget the first time I heard myself say, "This is hard. This is fun." That's the moment I knew I was changing mindsets.
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Thursday, November 8, 2007 at 06:39PM John Wooden, the legendary basketball coach, says you aren't a failure until you start to blame. What he means is that you can still be in the process of learning from your mistakes until you deny them.
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Friday, November 9, 2007 at 04:09PM George Danzig was a graduate student in math at Berkeley. One day, as usual, he rushed in late to his math class and quickly copied the two homework problems from the blackboard. When he later went to do them, he found them very difficult, and it took him several days of hard work to crack them open and solve them. They turned out not to be homework problems at all. They were two famous math problems that had never been solved.
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Friday, November 9, 2007 at 04:14PM He now believed that working hard was not something that made you vulnerable, but something that made you smarter.
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Monday, November 12, 2007 at 03:36PM Just because some people can do something with little or even no training, it doesn't mean that others can't do it (and sometimes do it even better) with training.
This is so important, because many, many people with the fixed mindset think that someone's early performance tells you all you need to know about their talent and their future.
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Monday, November 12, 2007 at 03:39PM Adam Guettel has been called the crown prince and savior of musical theater. He is the grandson of Richard Rodgers, the man who wrote the music to such classics as Oklahoma! and Carousel. Guettel's mother gushes about her son's genius. So does everyone else. "The talent is there and it's major," raved a review in The New York Times. The question is whether this kind of praise encourages people.
We conducted studies with hundreds of students, mostly early adolescents. We first gave each student a set of ten fairly difficult problems from a nonverbal IQ test. They mostly did pretty well on these, and when they finished we praised them.
We praised some of the students for their ability. They were told: "Wow, you got [say] eight right. That's a really good score. You must be smart at this." They were in the Adem Guettel you're-so-talented position.
We praised other students for their effort: "Wow, you got [say] eight right. That's a really good score. You must have worked really hard." They were not made to feel that they had some special gift; they were praised for doing what it takes to succeed.
Both groups were exactly equal to begin with. But right after the praise, they began to differ. As we feared, the ability praise pushed students right into the fixed mindset, and they showed all the signs of it, too: When we gave them a choice, they rejected a challenging new task that they could learn from. They didn't want to do anything that could expose their flaws and call into question their talent.
When Guettel was thirteen, he was all set to star in a Metropolitan Opera broadcast and TV movie of Amahl and the Night Visitors. He bowed out, saying that his voice had broken. "I kind of faked that my voice was changing . . . I didn't want to handle the pressure."
In contrast, when students were praised for effort, 90 percent of them wanted the challenging new task that they could learn from.
Then we gave students some hard new problems, which they didn't do so well on. The ability kids now thought they were not smart after all. If success had meant they were intelligent, then less-than-success meant they were deficient.
Guettel echoes this. "In my family, to be good is to fail. To be very good is to fail . . . The only thing not a failure is to be great."
The effort kids simply thought the difficulty meant "Apply more effort." They didn't see it as a failure, and they didn't think it reflected on their intellect.
What about the student's enjoyment of the problems? After the success, everyone loved the problems, but after the difficult problems, the ability students said it wasn't fun anymore. It can't be fun when your claim to fame, your special talent, is in jeopardy.
Here's Adam Guettel: "I wish I could just have fun and relax and not have the responsibility of that potential to be some kind of great man." As with the kids in our study, the burden of talent was killing his enjoyment.
The effort-praised students still loved the problems, and many of them said that the hard problems were the most fun.
We then looked at the students' performance. After the experience with difficulty, the performance of the ability-praised students plummeted, even when we gave them some more of the easier problems. Losing faith in their ability , they were doing worse than when they started. The effort kids showed better and better performance. They had used the hard problems to sharpen their skills, so that when they returned to the easier ones, they were way ahead.
Since this was a kind of IQ test, you might say that praising ability lowered the students' IQs. And that praising effort raised them.
There was one more finding in our study that was striking and depressing at the same time. We said to each student: "You know, we're going to go to other schools, and I bet the kids in those schools would like to know about the problems." So we gave the students a page to write out their thoughts, but we also left space for them to write the scores they had received on the problems.
Would you believe that almost 40 percent of the ability-praised students lied about their scores? And always in one direction. In the fixed mindset, imperfections are shameful-especially if you're talented-so they lied them away.
What's so alarming is that we took ordinary children and made them into liars, simply by telling them they were smart.
So telling children they're smart, in the end made them feel dumber and act dumber, but claim they were smarter. I don't think this is what we're aiming for when we put positive labels - "gifted," "talented," "brilliant" - on people. We don't mean to rob them of their zest for challenge and their recipes for success. But that's the danger.
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Monday, November 12, 2007 at 04:12PM When they're little, these girls are often so perfect, and they delight in everyone's telling them so. They're so well behaved, they're so cute, they're so helpful, and they're so precocious. Girls learn to trust people's estimates of them. "Gee, everyone's so nice to me; if they criticize me, it must be true." Even females at the top universities in the country say that other people's opinions are a good way to know their abilities.
Boys are constantly being scolded and punished. When we observed in grade school classrooms, we saw that boys got eight times more criticism than girls for their conduct. Boys are also constantly calling each other slobs and morons. The evaluations lose a lot of their power.
A male friend once called me a slob. He was over to dinner at my house and, while we were eating, I dripped some food on my blouse. "That's because you're such a slob," he said. I was shocked. It was then that I realized that no on had ever said anything like that to me. Males say it to each other all the time. It may not be a kind thing to say, even in jest, but it certainly makes them think twice before buying into other people's evaluations.
Even when women reach the pinnacle of success, other people's attitudes can get them. Frances Conley is one of the most eminent neurosurgeons in the world. In fact, she was the first woman ever given tenure in a neurosurgery at an American medical school. Yet careless comments from male colleagues-even assistants- could fill her with self-doubt. One day during surgery, a man condescendingly called her "honey." Instead of returning the compliment, she questioned herself. "Is a honey," she wondered, "especially this honey, good enough and talented enough to do this operation?"
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Tuesday, November 13, 2007 at 02:03PM Innate talent is nothing. Success is 99 percent hard work.
-Mr. Polgar, father of three of the most succsful female chess players ever
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Tuesday, November 13, 2007 at 02:05PM Think about your hero. Do you think of this person as someone with extraordinary abilities who achieved with little effort? Now go find out the truth. Find out the tremendous effort that went into their accomplishments-and admire them even more.
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Thursday, November 15, 2007 at 12:12PM So great is the belief in natural talent that many scouts and coaches search only for naturals, and teams will vie with each other to pay exorbitant amounts to recruit them. Billy Beane was a natural. Everyone agreed he was the next Babe Ruth. But Billy Beane lacked one thing. The mindset of a champion.
As Michael Lewis tells us in Moneyball, by the time Beane was a sophomore in high school, he was the highest scorer on the basketball team, the quarterback of the football team, and the best hitter on the baseball team, batting .500 in one of the toughest leagues in the country. His talent was real enough.
But the minute things went wrong, Beane searched for something to break. "It wasn't merely that he didn't like to fail; it was as if he didn't know how to fail."
As he moved up in baseball from the minor leagues to the majors, things got worse and worse. Each at-bat became a nightmare, another opportunity for humiliation and with every botched at-bat, he went to pieces. As one scout said, "Billy was of the opinion that he should never make an out." Sound familiar?
Did Beane try to fix his problems in constructive ways? No, of course not, because this is a story of the fixed mindset. Natural talent should not need effort. Effort is for the others, the less endowed. Natural talent does not ask for help. It is an admission of weakness. In short, the natural does not analyze his deficiencies and coach or practice them away. The very idea of deficiencies is terrifying.
Being so imbued with the fixed mindset, Beane was trapped. Trapped by his huge talent. Beane the player never recovered from the fixed mindset, but Beane the incredibly successful major-league executive. How did this happen?
There was another player who lived and played side by side with Beane in the minors and in the majors, Lenny Dykstra. Dykstra did not have a fraction of Beane's physical endowment or "natural ability," but Beane watched him in awe. As Beane later described, "He had no concept of failure . . . And I was the opposite."
Beane continues, "I started to get a sense of what a baseball player was and I could see it wasn't me. It was Lenny."
As he watched, listened, and mulled it over, it dawned on Beane that mindset was more important than talent. And not long after that, as part of a group that pioneered a radically new approach to scouting and managing, he came to believe that scoring runs- the whole point of baseball- was much more about process than about talent.
Armed with these insights, Beane, as the general manager of the 2002 Oakland Athletics, led his team to a season of 103 victories- winning the division championship and almost breaking the American League record for consecutive wins. The team had the second lowest payroll in baseball! They didn't buy talent, they bought mindset.
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Thursday, November 15, 2007 at 12:46PM You can see the small or graceless or even "disabled" ones who make it. Mugsy Bogues at five foot three playing NBA basketball, Doug Flutie in the NFL, Pete Gray the one-armed major league pitcher, Ben Hogan one of the greatest golfers of all time was completely lacking in grace as a kid, Glenn Cunningham who had badly burned and damaged legs was a great runner, and Larry Bird and his lack of swiftness. And you can see the god-like specimens who don't make it. Shouldn't this tell people something?
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Thursday, November 15, 2007 at 12:51PM When we look at him we see MICHAEL JORDAN. But there was a point when he was only Michael Jordan.
When Jordan was cut from the varsity team, he was devastated. His mother says, "I told him to go back and discipline himself." Boy, did he listen. He used to leave the house at six in the morning to go practice before school. At the University of North Carolina, he constantly worked on his weaknesses- his defensive game and his ball handling and shooting. The coach was taken aback by his willingness to work harder than anyone else. Once, after the team lost the last game of the season, Jordan went and practiced his shot for hours. He was preparing for the next year. Even at the height of his success and fame- after he had made himself into an athletic genius- his dogged practice remained legendary. Former Bulls assistant coach John Bach called him "a genius who constantly wants to upgrade his genius."
For Jordan, success stems from the mind. "The mental toughness and the heart are a lot stronger than some of the physical advantages you might have. I've always said that and I've always believed that." But other people don't. They look at Michael Jordan and they see the physical perfection that led inevitably to his greatness.
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Thursday, November 15, 2007 at 01:02PM Babe Ruth loved to practice. In fact, when he joined the Boston Red Sox, the veterans resented him for wanting to take batting practice every day. He wasn't just a rookie; he was a rookie pitcher. Who did he think he was, trying to take batting practice? One time, later in his career, he was disciplined and was banned from a game. That was one thing. But they wouldn't let him practice, either, and that really hurt him.
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