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The Slingers Are Always Going to Talk

In the days where cities built walls around the entire city to protect themselves from attacks one of the ways for an attacking army to win the battle and take the city involved people they called Slingers.  These people would take the stones from the wall around the city and sling them into the city's wells.  If they got enough rocks into the wells the water supply would dry up inside the city and they would be forced to leave the city and fight outside the walls.

This same concept applies to everyone.  People are always going to talk about you.  This concept especially applies to anyone who wants to be great.  How many times have you gotten an "A" on a test and your classmates say "Oh she always gets A's," or "She is just sucking up to the teacher" or something of that sort.  If you win a tournament or score a goal other teams are not going to be happy for you all the time and they might say mean things about you.  The thing about this is that these people probably don't dislike you.  If it wasn't you getting that "A" on the test but someone else did they would say the same thing about them.  You shouldn't feel bad when people say these things, you should simply just let it go.  The issue lies with them.  They probably have yet to deal with their issues.  The fact that they may be jealous of your grade. 

The most hated team in baseball is the Yankees.  The simple reason is that they always win.  People don't like teams that always win because that means they cannot win.  Why do so many people love the Chicago Cubs as opposed to the Yankees?  Because they never win.  Their nickname is the Love-able Losers.  It's easy to be liked when you're not on top.  

When people say mean things about you the best way to get over it is to just let it go.  Realize that the problem probably isn't with you and if you stoop down to their level you've now inherited that problem.  If you hear someone say something bad about you it is tempting to say "Well guess what I'm going to tell people about you.  Just you wait.  You're going to be sorry."  When you do this you're inviting that person and those words to stick around and bother you.  So you should just let it go.

You have to realize that if you're going to do something great not everyone is going to celebrate your successes.  I've found though, that if you celebrate other people's successes along with your own you will become more happy yourself.  Its fun to be around successful people because most successful people are happy.  If you celebrate with them they'll be more inclined to celebrate your successes.  So learn to be happy for other people when they do something good.

Once you get over the fact that not everyone is going to like you, you will feel better.  This is a hard concept to grasp.  I used to try so hard to get everyone to like me.  But I found that no matter what I did there were just some people who were never going to like me despite my best efforts.  When I stopped trying to be liked by everyone I found that I was happier.  I didn't have to worry anymore if people were going to like me.  I was just going to be me.  You can't let people change who you are.

I had a friend who grew up with this kid who was very popular.  He was very well liked, outgoing and the life of the party.  This kid had an unusual laugh.  It was very high pitched and very distinct just to him.  Well one day some kids in the school started poking fun at his laugh.  They were going around school imitating it.  They didn't mean any harm by it, they were just having a little fun.  But it affected him.  He started laughing less.  He wasn't as outgoing and after a while he was no longer the life of the party and he kept to himself.  He let the slingers get to him.

The important thing is to understand that people are going to talk about you whether you want them to or not.  If you live your life trying to be the gossip police, making sure nobody says anything bad about you, you are going to live a very frustrated life.  Learn to let things go and be happy being yourself.