Go Sports Life

By the time the New York Jets made him defensive coordinator in 1990, Carroll had refined his style of dealing with players face-to-face.  Sometimes that meant cracking the whip, sometimes it meant talking about girlfriends and movies.  He was clearly part of a new breed that had diverged from the authoritarian mode, of which he said, "That can be a great way to teach, but it's not me.  I get more out of you if I connect with you.  Instead of knocking you down . . . I'm going to build you."

Pg 43